Ledges Or Lips?

MAP

You said yesterday we need to get uncomfortable and shake things up to grow.  Is that the only way?  Can we grow quietly and peacefully?

You assume that chaos is uncomfortable.  That struggle is bad or difficult to get through.

You can shake things up and still perceive it to be peaceful and quiet.  You can be calm while everything around you is not.



You sound as if you fear getting uncomfortable, as if that is something to avoid.

Do you go to horror movies or climb tall mountains by the skin of you hands?

No.  I don’t like the adrenalin rush.

Some people do and seek it out.  So what you perceive as bad is seen by others as very good.

But do you need to get uncomfortable to grow?

Do you need to perceive it as uncomfortable?



Can you find a way to label what you feel as something you enjoy?

Well, sure.  I can take the feeling and get excited about it because I know change is afoot.

Or a hand.

So take that feeling of shake up and relabel it as something to look forward to, as something you desire rather than want to avoid.

I used the word uncomfortable because you are familiar with that.



Some people see the edges of what they know and can do as something empowering and uplifting.  They go towards the edges as much as they can.

Others see the edges as something to be feared and avoided.

You can reshape how that edge looks to you. Is it a ledge you fall off of or a lip you step over?



There are many who have done well to convince others that nothing worthwhile comes without being hard, that you have to pay your dues, that you learn only from failure, you must fail to succeed.

Buy into these if you like but you do not have to.

The biggest myth you have bought into is change is hard.

Of course it is hard when you fight it all the way and hold on to what you know.

That same change is easy if you welcome it and can’t wait to see what’s on the other side, what’s ahead of you.

You can’t know the unknown unless you go there.



There is much you did not know but went there anyway.  Look at those.

What made you go ahead?  Was there something that pulled you?  Was there something you were trying to get away from?

Were you tired of standing still?

Sometimes you create your own extra uncomfortableness to push you along.  It’s the only way you know to give yourself a boost.

There are better ways to do this if you would let go.



So no, to answer your question.  You don’t have to get uncomfortable to grow.

But that is what you know – for now.

Change that and you will change how you grow.